When it comes to relationships (partnerships & friendships) we’re so demanding that we’re making them nearly impossible… when parties involved are overly demanding, when each expects the other to live in her/his world, to always be there to join in her/his chosen activities, an ego battle inevitably develops…
— Charlene in The Celestine Prophecy
All girls continue to be taught when they are young, if not by their parents then by the culture around them, that they must earn the right to be loved — that “femaleness” is not good enough. This is a female’s first lesson in the school of patriarchal thinking and values. She must earn love. She is not entitled. She must be good enough to be loved. And good is always defined by someone else, someone on the outside.
bell hooks in Communion: Female Search for Love (via nepantlera-en-la-frontera)
True shit. We’re taught that if someone doesn’t love us, then we didn’t work hard enough or try hard enough, or we simply weren’t good enough. That kind of psychotic mindset impacts so many young women.
Every teen movie ever.
We are not trapped. We cannot jump outside the situation, and there is no point where you are free from all power relations. But you can always change it. So what I’ve said does not mean that we are always trapped, but that we are always free—well, anyway, that there is always the possibility of changing …[R]esistance comes first, and resistance remains superior to the forces of the process; power relations are obliged to change with the resistance. So I think that resistance is the main word, the key word, in this dynamic.
—Michel Foucault (‘Sex, Power and the Politics of Identity’ in Ethics: Subjectivity and Truth)
a lot of people think they deserve the world. a lot of people are wrong.
Humbled by the opportunity to dance again… 😭❤ (Taken with Instagram)
In such an emotionally charged political atmosphere, let me say this, in hopes that it’ll help someone somewhere…
We can disagree with an opinion without attacking the individual. Also, please don’t think that a difference in opinion is an attack against you.
Sally: I think red is the best color.
Savannah: I (understand but I) disagree, I think blue is the best color
as oppose to:
Sally: I think red is the best.
Savannah: You don’t know what you’re talking a/b, if you did you’d know that blue is the supreme color…
Considering the above — Trolls, who roam about with malicious intent, should be dismissed accordingly… that is, of course, after s/he reveals her/himself - doesn’t take much time before they do.
In all, give folks the bene? Please? With cherries, almonds & strawberries on top? Shoot, now I want yogurt… I digress…